Gondor's Grumblings

[Gondor]

Not been the best of days.

My dad who is ninety-three and suffering from Vascular Dementia, has been in a care home for just over a week and a half so that my mum could have a bit of a rest. Found out this morning that he had been admitted to the local hospital with a chest infection. This evening one of my sisters phoned to let me know that he has pneumonia and is non-responsive. As such he has been put on end-of-life care. As you can imagine I am feeling a bit out of sorts at the moment. It's going to be an odd show for me in Perth this weekend, not knowing if I am going to have to hurry back home or not. I had during the afternoon, filled up with petrol for the weekend, at least that is something I don't have to worry about.

At least I managed to finish a model for the show, disappointed that I didn't get around to finishing another that is almost complete. At least that one can be completed in time for the next show without any pressure.

Gondor

[The Rat]

Not been the best of days.
Gondor

   Take as much time as you need, do whatever you need to do, and grieve in your own way. Take care.

[Rick Lowe]

Yeah, pneumonia is nasty.

Hoping things work out as will be best for all you.

[Rheged]

Much sympathy!  My dad went the same way so I know exactly how you feel.   We are here should you need to sound off about the situation.   Remember to look after yourself as well as your mum.

[NARSES2]

Hope things resolve themselves in the best way that these things can Alastair, many sympathies mate

[Gondor]

This morning before 8 am my father passed away. Although we were not very close at all, it was him that bought me my first model kits. A Revell Zero and Spitfire, the ones with a slice of the globe as a stand.
So please understand if I am quiet, or if I get angry at people.

Gondor

[PR19_Kit]

Very sorry to hear that Alastair, I've been there too and know what you're feeling.

Best wishes.

[scooter]

What Kit said.  Processing the grief, whether or not you were close, of losing a parent is one of the hardest things to get over.

Take all the time you need, we'll still be here.

Most sincere condolences from Family Scooter

[zenrat]

So sorry mate.

[Pellson]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, Alastair. Yet, ninetythree is a respectable age, so hopefully a life well lived.
I lost my own father five years ago at 92 yo, and while things get easier, I still miss talking to him at times. Then again, it was due time for him - his last year had been rather shitty, tbh, and it was rather painful seeing that witty person locked into an entirely uncooperative body. So while I miss hanging out with him, I can honestly say that I am at peace with his passing, and was so quite soon after he left. I hope you can find something similar.

In the mean time, I, and most certainly others as well, can easily be reached if you need someone to yell at. It's part of the service.
Take care.

[Gondor]

Thanks guys. It's odd. As I said we were not close, he was a very quiet man, in fact, both of my parents are quiet, which might have something to do with both being only children and growing up during the war. Saying that they were both quite young at the time.
Any way, even though I didn't have much of a connection with him, the fact he has passed is being a very emotional thing. I have visited my mum this morning and was fine untill I got there and saw her looking out of the little office they had at the front of their flat.
Work has said I was to take as much time as I need and then we will work out the details when I go back. I was off today regardless and have said I will definitely not be in tomorrow. I have a little over sixty hours of holidays I can use if I need to so I will have to see how it goes.

Gondor

[NARSES2]

You have my condolences Alistair, I've been there myself a few years ago now. Take care of yourself and your mum 

[The Rat]

Remember the good times. Condolences.

[Gondor]

Remember the good times. Condolences.

That's it though, I don't have any good times to remember.

Gondor

[kerick]

I also have gone through the loss of my father a couple years ago. My deepest condolences for you and your Mom. It's an empty space in my life I don't think I will ever fill. I can't change it so I try to find some memories.